What To Do When Your Child Doesn’t Like Ski School

We often joke in my family about how my younger son (now seven) got “kicked out” of ski school when he was four. We had signed him up for an age-appropriate group lesson, but once he was dropped off, he chose to practice passive resistance, lying on a snow bank, licking the ice off his mittens, and refusing to go up the rope tow. After several days of this behavior it was gently suggested to us that he not return to the group lesson the following day. Which suited him just fine, as it meant more time to play in the ski area’s daycare center.

My husband and I were mortified, of course, but also wondered what to do since the remaining members of our family loved to ski. Would this be the end of our family ski vacations? Just what are the options when you’ve got a less-than-enthusiastic skier in your family?

Switch to a half-day program. Most ski schools offer both a full and half-day option. Younger children, or those who are resistant to learning to ski, might prefer the half-day approach. Is your child a morning person? Sign up for lessons before lunch. Or, if your child perks up in the afternoon, wait until then to leave him or her with a group.

Try a private lesson. If your child isn’t doing well in a group setting, you might try signing him or her up with an individual instructor (ask for one who specializes in working with kids). At some resorts, you can take a parent-and-me lesson where you, your child, and the instructor go out together. This can be helpful in showing you the kind of things to say to your child and also how best to help him or her improve.

Offer some one-on-one attention. Some children don’t like skiing with other kids or instructors but enjoy going up the mountain with parents and siblings. You may not feel qualified to teach your child to ski, but if you have any experience with skiing yourself you can probably at the very least help him or her get down the mountain. The positive experience of one-on-one time may mean your child’s attitude about ski school changes.

Take a day off. Your child may just not be in the mood on a given day to go skiing. Take a day off together and try something different like ice skating, snowshoeing, or even just hanging out in your condo playing some board games.

Don’t insist – but don’t give up. If your child is really not happy out on the mountain, don’t continue to insist that he or she try skiing. But don’t assume that he or she will never like to ski either. And don’t feel like you have to cancel your trip or skip skiing yourself. Most ski areas have a day care center or babysitting service – if your child doesn’t want to ski, take advantage of one of these options.

We used a combination of these approaches with my son: He had a few private lessons that first year, and he spent a lot of time in daycare while the rest of my family was outside. But we didn’t assume that he’d never like to ski, and put him back in half-day group lessons the following year. Gradually he came around, and now, he can’t wait to get up on the mountain. In fact, he proudly skied his first black diamond trail this winter.

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Mara Gorman has been skiing at Mad River Glen in Vermont since she was twelve years old. Although she lives at sea level in Delaware, she and her family head for the mountains whenever they can to ski, snowshoe, hike, and bike. An award-winning freelance writer, Mara blogs about her family’s many adventures at TheMotherofallTripscom. Mara is also an ambassador and contributor to Mountain Reservations.

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2 Responses to What To Do When Your Child Doesn’t Like Ski School

  1. Sarah says:

    I am a children’s instructor myself. I work one day a week at my local hill. I do not do it for the money but for the live of sharing my passion if winter sports in to the next generation.

    Here are a few other tips to help with the kids who like to play hard to get.

    Remember to try different instructors each child learns in a different way. Unlike adults who normally know if they are seer, doers, of feelers, kids have a hard time communicating that and instructors have a hard time figuring it out. Just as every student learns differently instructors teach differently. The best kids instructor may not be the best fit for your child and their needs.

    You are introducing your kids to something completely different form what they are used to. It is cold, their feet are heavy, their skis are too long (even though the are the right size) and its to bright are usually response when the child feels uncomfortable just trying something new. Try letting them play with skis and boots outside of the hill. Use tape and padding on a pair of ski boots and let them run around the house getting use to the equipment. Find old skis and let them walk around the back yard. Make the equipment familiar to them so when you do put them on them at the hill it is one less obstacle them have to overcome.

    Remember skiing should be fun. I am not saying give in when your child is fighting but remember if they do not have fun it is very difficult for them to want to go back out. If they have had a bad day play with them around the hill before you leave so they like it there. It can be as simple as making a snowman on the edge of the hill. I have mittens with eyes on them that I use as puppets. Most kids laugh when I use them to do puppet shows.

    Teach children how to ski may seem like a battle some days but I love to do it. My favorite part is when they come to find me after the lesson to tell they made it down without falling or they went down the big hill with their mom and dad. Never give up. They can do it we just have to connect with them.

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